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我10年前去一家小公司做工认识了我的先生, 当时有点犹豫因为他大...

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陈峰你好,

我10年前去一家小公司做工认识了我的先生, 当时有点犹豫因为他大我10出岁,我问过父母.. 他们说找一个大你的心智比较成熟,有稳当事业,相处也会比前任轻松,自己考虑..
一段时间后答应他尝试交往,在一起时他会包容我的一切也很少有脾气。
2年后在他亲戚家人催促下我们注册了.. 当时我还未满21岁, 父母其实觉得太快有点担心,之后和他的相处还算不错,结婚前我们也做了身体检查,发现他有一个病史,其实他是知道的可是从没告诉我,虽然也不一定会遗传但是就觉得他有意隐瞒是有点不好,他说除了这个对我无所隐瞒了.. 之后开始筹备结婚的程序..1年之后我们摆酒结婚..
婚后的相处几个月后开始有摩擦.. 每当争吵跟他沟通处理问题他都逐渐逃避,我说了我的想法后等他给我回应也要知道他的想法,他都说他要睡了/直接走开/叫我闭嘴/大多数没有回应我.. 他习惯性沉默不开口让我很不能了解他,开始沟通上渐渐有问题,有了矛盾..
之后的某一天我从父母那里得知他目前有被人sue,官司有点棘手,是他收到律师信后告诉他母亲和我父母的,他30岁前(我当时还不认识他)有当过女性朋友担保人.. 婚前他从没告诉我这些。
现在事情发生了我就当面问他,他才吞吞吐吐的告诉我.. (心里难过,他有心隐瞒)我是有轻度忧郁症的人,他对我隐瞒与官司这件事让我很烦,压力,睡不好..
当时真的很不开心,我们也为这事情争吵很多次,打官司那里他花了几万处理。
我心里开始对他有不信任,心里总会感觉他还有什么没告诉我,不坦诚,有点失望又累..
官司结束后他律师说案子是解决了.. 心里松了一口气,可他不坦诚的行为我是一直闷心里.. 一年之后我们购买一个公寓单位,可是又在一年后他又被sue了,因为提告人调查到我们买单位,对方要sue他/无力偿还或破产。我们也为这件事再争吵,不是说官司已经settle了吗?这起事件发生后他对我态度变了时常发脾气不管在我家人他家人或在外面都这样,他翻脸像翻书一样骂我,都被他吓到... 这次官司他又花了几万打官司,官司解决后他需要还律师费所以屋子只能cancel,头期也亏了几万,他当时至今也不知以后还会再中律师信...
经过这些之后我们的感情也变得冷淡了,我很难过我第一次买房很开心的事,别人也一样买房可是我的搞到房没了头期也没了,他对这件事情没什么向我表示/安慰我,之后的我们变得很少说话,有时争吵后他几次故意出门不关不锁,我是冲凉出来看到后马上去关门,当时只是我一个人在家很危险又是晚上11点.. 讲了他很多次还是故意这样.. 我很难过也很气他的行为,我们之间更没说话了一直到mco 1.0,当时的我一直感受不到他和家人给的家庭温暖关爱所以当时选择暂时回娘家住,也有问他要不要跟我一起,他只说他要陪妈妈叫我自己回去住...
几天后我生病,我妈妈带我去看医生,回来后我有告诉他我不舒服可他一直不来找我看我,只是打电话问有看医生吗,做么我会这样仅此而已,对我病情不关心, 态度冷淡..
Mco后我没搬回去住了到目前我们偶尔周末出来吃饭喝茶,最近他告诉我他妈妈叫我回去住..
我有表达我这几年所有感想让他知道,他说他对感情没经验不太会经营,需要我/别人指点他怎么做,我听了心都累, 他都四十多岁了..

我跟他相处这几年,他经常遇到事情都是能拖则拖,都很多事情也是不放心上的人很像无所谓..
我只觉得这样的婚姻关系让我很累,我该怎么做?

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